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Paul's Relationship Advice Column.

Q: What Does the Bible Say About Being Single?

Jesus was single. Paul was single. Paul called singleness a gift. The Bible honors both marriage and singleness — the church should too.

Q: What Does the Bible Say About Divorce?

Jesus said divorce isn't God's design — but he also made exceptions. The Bible's view is grieving but not condemning.

Q: What Is Fasting and Should Christians Do It?

Fasting is voluntarily going without food (or something else) to focus on God. Jesus assumed his followers would do it.

Q: What Does the Bible Say About Marriage?

The Bible frames marriage as a covenant — a reflection of God's relationship with his people. It's bigger than romance.

1 Corinthians 7 — Paul answers every relationship question the church was scared to ask

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Key Takeaways

Paul straight up tells you when he's quoting Jesus versus giving his own Spirit-led advice — that level of honesty is rare and lowkey makes you trust him more.

Marriage isn't a sin and singleness isn't a flex — both are gifts from God, and the only question that matters is whether you're going all-in for Him, no cap.

📢 Chapter 7 — Paul's Relationship Advice Column 💍

The had written a letter with a whole list of questions — and a lot of them were about relationships. Should Christians get married? Is it better to stay single? What if your spouse isn't a believer? What about people who are already engaged? The was clearly stressed about this stuff, and they needed someone to give it to them straight.

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Paul does exactly that. He answers question by question, section by section, and he's incredibly transparent about when he's speaking from direct instruction from and when he's giving his own . This chapter is one of the most practical, real, and honest conversations about marriage and singleness in the entire Bible.

Marriage and Intimacy 💒

Sexuality

The Corinthians had apparently been saying that it was best for people to avoid sexual relationships entirely. addresses this head-on:

"Now, about what you wrote — yes, there's something to be said for singleness. But let's be real about temptation. Because of the pull toward sexual immorality, each person should have their own spouse. And within marriage, both the husband and wife should fulfill their responsibilities to each other.

"Here's the thing — in marriage, your body isn't just yours. The wife has authority over her husband's body, and the husband has authority over the wife's body. Don't withhold from each other unless you both agree to take a break for prayer — and even then, come back together quickly so Satan doesn't use that gap against you because of your lack of self-control.

"I'm saying this as a concession, not a command. Personally? I wish everyone could be single like me. But each person has their own gift from God — some are wired for marriage, some for singleness."

Paul isn't ranking marriage below singleness or vice versa. He's calling both of them gifts from God — different callings for different people. The key isn't your relationship status. It's whether you're living faithfully in whatever lane God has you in. 🙏

To the Single and Widowed 🕊️

speaks directly to people who aren't married — whether they've never been married or they've lost a spouse:

"To those who are unmarried and to the widows — I'd say it's a W to stay single, like I am. But if you can't exercise self-control, then get married. It's better to marry than to burn with passion."

No either way. Paul isn't saying marriage is a consolation prize. He's being honest: if staying single is going to lead you into , then marriage is the right call. Know yourself. Be honest about where you're at.

On Divorce (From the Lord) 💔

Now shifts to something heavier, and he makes it clear — this isn't his opinion. This is straight from :

"To those who are already married, I'm giving you a charge — and this isn't from me, it's from the Lord: a wife should not separate from her husband. But if she does, she should either stay unmarried or reconcile with him. And the husband should not divorce his wife."

Paul is echoing what Jesus taught about the weight of the marriage . This isn't about trapping people in harmful situations — it's about taking the commitment seriously and fighting for when possible. Divorce was treated casually in that culture, and Paul is pushing back hard against that. 💔

Mixed-Faith Marriages 🤝

Now addresses a situation didn't speak to directly — what happens when one spouse is a believer and the other isn't. He's transparent about this being his own guidance:

"To the rest of you — and this is me talking, not the Lord directly — if a brother has a wife who's not a believer, and she's willing to stay with him, he should not divorce her. Same goes the other way — if a woman has an unbelieving husband who's willing to stay, she shouldn't divorce him.

"Why? Because the unbelieving spouse is set apart through the believing one. Your kids are made holy through this. But if the unbelieving partner wants to leave? Let them go. The brother or sister isn't chained in that situation. God has called you to peace.

"Think about it — wife, how do you know whether you'll be the reason your husband comes to faith? Husband, how do you know whether your wife will be saved through you?"

This is incredibly balanced. Paul says: stay if they'll stay — your has an influence on your household. But if they walk away, you're not enslaved to the relationship. God called you to , not to hostage situations. The is always and , but the reality is that you can't force someone else's decision. 🕊️

Stay Where You're Called 🌱

zooms out from marriage to drop a broader principle that applies to everything:

"Here's my rule for every church: live the life the Lord assigned you. Stay in the situation you were in when God called you. Were you circumcised when you came to faith? Don't try to undo it. Were you uncircumcised? Don't stress about getting circumcised. Neither one matters — what matters is keeping God's commandments.

"Were you a servant when God called you? Don't let it consume you. (But if you get a chance to be free, take it.) Because here's the truth: if you were a servant when the Lord called you, you're the Lord's free person. And if you were free when He called you, you're now Christ's servant.

"You were bought with a price. Don't become slaves to people. Brothers and sisters, whatever situation you were in when God called you — stay there with God."

Paul isn't saying "never change your circumstances." He literally says take if you can get it. But his bigger point is this: your identity in isn't determined by your circumstances. Don't spend all your energy trying to rearrange the outside when God is working on the inside. Your status, your background, your situation — none of that limits what God can do with you. 💯

About the Engaged 💍

now addresses engaged couples, and again he's upfront that this is his wisdom, not a direct command from the Lord:

"About those who are engaged — I don't have a specific command from the Lord, but I'll give you my judgment as someone who, by God's mercy, is trustworthy. Given the present crisis, I think it's best for people to stay as they are.

"Are you married? Don't try to get out of it. Are you single? Don't feel like you have to rush into marriage. But if you do get married — you haven't sinned. If an engaged woman gets married — she hasn't sinned either. Just know that those who marry will face extra struggles in this life, and I'm trying to spare you that."

Paul isn't anti-marriage. He's being practical. The early was dealing with real persecution and hardship (that's the "present distress" he's referencing), and he's saying: marriage adds complexity to an already difficult situation. It's not sin to marry — it's just more to navigate during hard times.

The Clock Is Ticking ⏳

Here's where urgency really comes through. He pulls back and gives the "why" behind everything he's been saying:

"Here's what I mean, brothers and sisters: the time is short. From now on, let those who are married live as if they weren't consumed by it. Let those who mourn live as if they're not stuck in grief. Let those who celebrate live as if they're not caught up in the hype. Let those who buy things live as if they own nothing. Let those who deal with the world live as if it's not their main focus.

"Because the present form of this world is passing away.

"I want you to be free from anxiety. The unmarried person focuses on the things of the Lord — how to please Him. But the married person has divided attention — they're thinking about how to please their spouse AND the Lord. I'm not saying this to restrict you. I'm saying this to help you live with undivided devotion to the Lord."

This isn't about marriage being bad — it's about priorities. Paul is saying: everything in this world is temporary. Marriage, grief, , possessions — all of it is passing. So hold it all loosely. Don't let anything — even good things — become the thing that pulls your focus from what's eternal. That's not anti-relationship. That's just keeping the main thing the main thing. 🧠

The Final Word on Marriage 🎤

wraps up with some final practical guidance:

"If someone feels like they're not treating their fiancée right by waiting, and their feelings are strong, and it needs to happen — let them get married. It's not a sin. But if someone has made up their mind firmly, has their desires under control, and has decided to keep the engagement without rushing to marry — they're doing well too.

"So the person who marries does well, and the person who doesn't marry does even better.

"A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she's free to marry whoever she wants — as long as it's in the Lord. But in my opinion, she'll be happier if she stays as she is. And I think I have the Spirit of God on this one."

Paul ends the way he started — with balance. Marriage is good. Singleness is good. Neither one is sin. Neither one is automatically better. The question isn't "what's your relationship status?" The question is: are you devoted to the Lord in whatever season you're in? That's the whole chapter, and Paul lands it with quiet confidence. 💯

Key Takeaways

📢 Chapter 7 — Paul's Relationship Advice Column 💍

Inside this Chapter

Questions about this Chapter

What Does the Bible Say About Being Single?

What Does the Bible Say About Divorce?

What Is Fasting and Should Christians Do It?

What Does the Bible Say About Sex in Marriage?

What Does the Bible Say About Marriage?

My Notes

Marriage and Intimacy 💒

To the Single and Widowed 🕊️

On Divorce (From the Lord) 💔

Mixed-Faith Marriages 🤝

Stay Where You're Called 🌱

About the Engaged 💍

The Clock Is Ticking ⏳

The Final Word on Marriage 🎤